---------- Forwarded message ---------- From: Dante-Gabryell Monson <[email protected]> Date: Mon, Sep 19, 2011 at 6:11 PM Subject: When parents model the "healthy selfishness" of partnership... To: [email protected] excerpt : Children internalize partnership values when their parents believe that Love is abundant. Such parents tend to nurture generously and unconditionally. Younger children are naturally narcissistic. When parents model the "healthy selfishness" of partnership and don't resist their children's narcissism, the children eventually learn that it feels good to care for others. http://dailygroove.net/healthy-selfishness ---------- Forwarded message ---------- From: Scott Noelle - The Daily Groove <[email protected]> Date: Mon, Sep 19, 2011 at 12:55 PM Subject: [Daily Groove] Healthy Selfishness To: Dante-Gabryell <[email protected]> ** *THE DAILY GROOVE* ~ *by Scott Noelle* www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove *---> DID YOU SEE the Announcement!? I'm presenting a free teleseminar/interview called "One Big Happy Family: Four Powerful Secrets to Creating a Joy-filled Home." It's part of an online series called "The Great Parenting Show," hosted by Jacqueline Green, and you can access the whole series for free when you sign up here <http://bit.ly/greatparenting>: *http://bit.ly/greatparenting *:: Healthy Selfishness ::* Conventional thinking has it that if children get "too much" of what they want, they'll become narcissistic adults who only care about themselves. But this thinking is locked inside the box of the "dominator paradigm," where you "win" by exploiting, excluding, or defeating others. Outside the dominator box is PARTNERSHIP. In partnership it's understood that we're all connected, so *your* wins are *my* wins, and vice versa. Children internalize partnership values when their parents believe that Love is abundant. Such parents tend to nurture generously and unconditionally. Younger children are naturally narcissistic. When parents model the "healthy selfishness" of partnership and don't resist their children's narcissism, the children eventually learn that it feels good to care for others. Today, notice all the ways in which *giving* makes you feel good, and how others feel good when you allow them to give to you. Let the line between giving and receiving dissolve. That's the magic of partnership! http://dailygroove.net/healthy-selfishness *Take the next step...* *Join the PATH Program:* http://www.enjoyparenting.com/path/info *Get "The Daily Groove" BOOK!* http://www.enjoyparenting.com/book *Share this groove on...* [image: [Facebook button]] *Facebook*<http://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.enjoyparenting.com/daily-groove/healthy-selfishness> [image: [Twitter button]] *Twitter*<http://twitter.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.enjoyparenting.com/daily-groove/healthy-selfishness&text=I+like+%22Healthy+Selfishness%22+from+%23TheDailyGroove+by+%40ScottNoelle+at> *Feel free to forward this message to your friends! (Please include this paragraph and everything above.) Copyright (c) 2011 by Scott Noelle* *PATH Program members: See WHAT'S NEW<http://www.enjoyparenting.com/path/new> * *"Inspiration & Coaching for Progressive Parents"* http://www.ScottNoelle.com http://www.EnjoyParenting.com PO Box 19901 Portland, OR 97280 USA -- P2P Foundation: http://p2pfoundation.net - http://blog.p2pfoundation.net Connect: http://p2pfoundation.ning.com; Discuss: http://lists.ourproject.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/p2p-foundation Updates: http://del.icio.us/mbauwens; http://friendfeed.com/mbauwens; http://twitter.com/mbauwens; http://www.facebook.com/mbauwens