so first a general remark of your critique. I guess I'm an integrative-structuralist, which means that what you suggest is part of my approach, and is well documented on our wiki, but, in this contribution, I focus on the structural necessity of the commons/caring shift, which is inevitably linked to the underlying psycho-bodily-relational structures.

But this being said, I can't agree with the idealization of the paragraph. We actually now know that tribal cultures were <more> violent than state-based systems, not less, and that the attachment parenting (which is good, and I have practiced largely with my children, but especially the last two), was inextricably linked to the desensitization produced by the male initiation rituals.

Reading the the Institute of Psycho-History, and especially their very well-document 'History of Child Abuse", is very instructive. In fact, we have now a unprecedented number of children who have been education through democratic and respectful parenting, and they are the ones driving the peer to peer/ commons / collaborative culture we draw on. Military training is now for volunteer professionals, and the kind of de-sensitizing practices are not nearly as generalized as they once were.

There are of course huge pockets of the population (say the Trump voters, and the books of George Makoff), where authoritarian education continues to be the norm, and produces authoritarian personalities. And the migration of countries where such repressive practices are still the norm, create additional problems (it's the rural migration from Anatolia which overwhelmed the secular state in Turkey).

So we should continue to build on the huge cultural shifts set in motion by the 1968 revolts, which were politically defeated, but did put in motion changes we can built on.

But of course, I am in agreement that there are still important amounts of dis-sociation going on in our child-bearing and child-rearing practices ... and that these need to be changed, (taking babies away from their mothers as soon as they are born, sleeping in different rooms with anxiety provoking baby phones, childcare in anonymous and bureaucratic institutions too early in life)

I also agree we should be re-creating the positive effects of more collective child-rearing in renewed community setings ..

I have been blessed by living the last 12 years in Thailand, where unlike my experience in Belgium, both caring for my kids , and caring for my Alzheimer-afflicted mother, was 'easy', because of the support of the extended family.

But let's not forget, thai society is also hyper-authoritarian and violent, much more than ours, and this is because , 'from 1 to 7, treat your children as kings, from 7 to 14, treat them as slaves, from 14 to 21, treat them as friends'

In other words, as I said in the beginning, the attachment parenting is replaced with very authoritarian education in the school system.,

It leads to a society where you dearly love your (extended) family, but deeply mistrust anyone outside ... This is what civic societies have changed, by extending 'love' to a more broader scope, though still limited to the imaginary community of the nation; part of the next phase, is to create successful trans-national neo-tribes, firmly rooted in networks of physical places, that ca form the basis of an extension of that 'love' to humanity as a whole,

Michel

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